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(5) R.:‑Well, I'm not sure lhat thus experiment will be helpful. You see, when I first went to Dr., he asked me if I'd be willing to participale in this experiment...and well, I feel that there's something I really need help wilh but this is Just an experimenl. P.: , , . , ., , , , ‑, , .

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(7) Experiments are for research, but there's something I really need help with.

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(8) .: What, specifically, do you really need help with? ?

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(14) .: Who, specifically, don't you know how to make a good impression on? , ?

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(19) R.: I guess what I have trying to say is that women don't like me.

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(23) .: Well, most women really but as you said that, 1 just started to think about Ihis one woman Janet. , , .

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(26) .: Now, how do you know thal you didn't make a good impression on Janet?

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(36) .: Let me see if I understand this. You know that Janel was not interested in you because she didn't look at you?

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(44) .: How, specifically, do you know that she doesn't listen to you? , ? .

(45) .: Well, she doesn't ever look at me. You KBOW women are. They never let you know if they notice you.

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(53) .: Wetl, I always used to clean up the living room and wash the dishes and she never noticed and never said anything.

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(69) .: Well, once when yean, I even had to tell her. , () .

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(71) .: That I had done ihis thing for her. If she had been interested enough' she would have noticed it herself.

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(88) .: Ralph, do you quess you could also tell Janet how you feelabourt her? , , , ? :

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(5) .: Karan and Sue, they share the house with me. We also have four children between us. () . . 4 .

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(13) .: That I would like for them to do something for me once in a while.

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(15) .: They really have 1"1 of things to do, but sometimes I feel that they are insensitive. , , .

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(20) .: What don't they do for you? What needs don'l they see that you have?

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(25) .: No, not never, but I always do thigs for them whether they ask or not.

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(29) .: You know, like help with the dishes or babysitting, or just anything. , ‑ , , .

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