Dealing with emotions is very importance to your health. Its all very
well to say that we must deal with these feelings, but how do we go about
doing so, and what exactly is dealing with our emotions?
ACCEPT YOUR EMOTIONS
Dealing with our feelings is facing, accepting and working through them. We will always have emotions, so we have to learn to deal with them. If repressed, they will find a way to come out as in depression, anxieties, panic, eating disorders to name but a few.
A lot of the time, people do not want to feel what they are feeling. They may be ashamed or guilty of these feelings, or they just do not
like a certain emotion. For example, you start to like your best friends
girl / boyfriend. You dont know how it happened, but youre now stuck
in a predicament where you are totally infatuated with your best friends
girl / boyfriend. Automatically, you may try to suppress these feelings. If you ignore them, maybe theyll go away, right? WRONG! The chances
are small that your feelings will just leave you; youll most probably be
feeling terrible about yourself, plus, a buildup of pent up emotions leads to stress!
WHAT YOU CAN DO
Confront those emotions that youre trying to ignore. Heres what you might do: keep a diary in which you write down your feelings. This diary
is a way for you to think about the stuff that youre made of! By writing
down and analyzing your feelings, you become aware of the real reason why youre feeling the way you are, and the emotion becomes less painful. Some questions you could ask yourself when youre writing in your diary are:
What am I feeling? When did it start?
What does it make me want to do?
What were the triggers for this emotion? What pictures come to mind as I feel it?
When else have I felt it? Is it familiar or something new?
What would I like to say to the person / event / myself? Say it out loud
talk to your dog.
Take the above example, you might discover that it is not really your friends girl / boyfriend that you like so much, its the idea behind it (having a girl / boyfriend). You may learn that youre lonely, and you just want someone. By writing in the diary, you find all this out and solve the problem because you no longer like your best friends girl / boy- friend, and have something else to focus on, namely, finding yourself a girl / boyfriend!
Or you can talk to someone. Many people go to other people to help them deal with their emotions; these other people could be your schools guid- ance counselor, favourite teacher, family relative, psychologist or psycho- therapist.
3. speaking
Do ex. 1, p. 215.
4. Reading and speaking
Do ex. 2, p. 215.
5. speaking and writing
Discuss the following questions, complete the table and then write true sentences about your relations.
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What causes generation gaps to form?
How might todays generation gaps be different from those of your pa- rents or even your grandparents?
How do generation gaps change / evolve for individuals over time?
Can you see a generation gap between yourself and the younger genera- tion?
What is it concerning?
Do you feel your parents dont understand you because of a genera- tion gap?
to solve conflicts
Both of you
He She They
Have
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Want smb
Demand(s)
to make the right choices
to find balance in your relations to keep your opinions open
to cultivate positive emotions to establish priorities
6. summary
1) What are the most common needs of youth nowadays?
2) What is it like to be a teenager in your society?
3) Would you rather be a child, teenager or an adult? Why?
4) What are the advantages / disadvantages of being a child / a teen- ager / an adult?
7. Homework
Write a composition using the questions above.
Lesson 76
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1. Warm-up
Procedure
Do teenagers in your country have problems with drugs or alcohol? What is the difference between a habit and an addiction? (with a habit
you are in control of your choices, with an addiction you are not in control
of your choices)
2. Reading and writing
Work in pairs
Read the article and make some notes as for youth problems in Britain. Then compare it with the situation in Ukraine. Are there any differences and similarities?
School, lessons, games, clubs, homework. A bell rings. But one day young boys and girls will be at school for the last time. And then they are
confronted with difficulties. They must make a decision: to enter a univer-
sity or try to find a job.
In Britain life used to be fun for teenagers. They have money to spend,
and free time to spend it in. But for many young people life is harder now. Jobs are difficult to find. There is not so much money around. Things are
more expensive, and its hard to find a place to live. Teachers say that stu-
dents work harder than they used to. They are less interested in politics and more interested in passing exams. They know that good exam results may get them better jobs.
Three-quarters of young people do more or less what their parents did.
They do their best at school, find some kind of work in the end, and get
marry in their early twenties. They get on well with their parents, and en- joy family life. They eat fish and chips, watch football on TV, go to the pub.
Most young people worry more about money than their parents did twenty
years ago. They try to spend less and to save more.
For some, the answer to unemployment is to leave home and look for
work in one of Britains cities. Every day hundreds of young people arrive
in London from other parts of Britain, looking for jobs. Some find work
and stay. Others dont find it and go home again, or join the army of unem-
ployed in London.
One of the main problems of young people is drugs. This is a relatively
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new problem but it is becoming more and more dangerous. Million young
people today are using drugs, and most of them will die. Usually they want
just to try it, then again and again and after year may be two years they
will die. It is true. Because there are no medicine to help you. Thats why never do it, if you do it goes bad, very bad.
People of almost every age are susceptible to this pernicious disease but
it hits the youth the hardest. Its name is unemployment. The percentage of unemployed youth in the total number of the jobless is high. In many deve- loping countries the situation is more serious. Unless the economic situa- tion in the world changes, youth unemployment will mount.
There are many youth organisations in Britain, which unite young men
on different principles. There are some informal organisations, for exam- ple: skinheads, hippies, panks and so on. Now there exists the problem of misunderstanding between different youth groups.
They also face the problem how to spend their free time. They can do it in different ways. Some of teenagers spend their free time in different night clubs. Other young people spend their free time in the streets.