This is a well known English proverb and I think that each of us has came across it at least once in life.
Everyone wants to be happy. We wish to feel a sense of elation, joy, love every minute of our life. And we try to escape any bitter experience. But not everyone is ready to fight for his happiness, because it requires much effort to make his dream alive. So it is quite easier to give up and feel hate, envy and irritation all the rest of your life. Thus, you can rob yourself of happiness. Is it sensible? No, it isn`t. So don`t let negative emotions threaten your happiness! Just imagine that you are the painter. Your life is a clean canvas. All your emotions are tubes of oil. And only painter can decide,whether his painting would be bright and colorful or dark and dull. So happiness. How can we depict it? Let`s talk about it. Let us start by defining the the term happiness. To my mind, it makes no sense in trying to find out the general formula for it. For someone happiness is love, for someone it is wealth, for someone else it is self-affirmation and so on. Because all people differ in character, upbringing and values. So you should decide,what does mean happiness personally for you. Then you should set a goal to become happy and do everything to achieve it. It is the first step. The second step is not to give up. If something goes wrong, don`t be upset. Sinking into the chair and bursting into tears won`t help you. Try once more. Be a man of character. Remember, after a rain always comes rainbow. If now your lover is far away from you and you feel lonely, don`t forget that only try love passes the test of separation.. Just imagine how bright and happy you will be, when you will meet again. If you can`t do anything, don`t lose your temper. You anger won`t help you. Try more and more unless everything will turn out. You cant`t even guess, how pride of yourself you will be. One low of the life states, that who has never tasted bitter, knows not what a sweet. And the last, but not less important thing is to be able to enjoy trifles. You can speak with friends, listen to music, jump, run. There are so many beautiful places, which you can visit. When the sun is shining, isn`t it the cause for joy? If you friends are with you, isn`t it the case for excitement? You should just learn how to notice such trifles and enjoy them. In life we should first of all enjoy trifles, and then life will be able to trust people more. To sum up, it is up to you to make you happy. Life is too short to waste it on anger, annoyance, rage and jealously. One popular song says: If you have some trouble, when you worry, you make it double. All problems always slip the memory some time later. So they are not worth your tears and nerves. Love, live, laugh and be happy!
6. What are the essential factors that help to mould a persons character?
Personality is the sum total of mental characteristics that makes an individual unique when compared to others. There is also thoughts, as well as emotions which an individual experiences, which causes him to behave the way he does. At a very superficial level, personality comes out through one's disposition or emotional tone. However, personality is also reflected in the values, beliefs, and expectations of a person.
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Most of the factors which shape someone's personality are a result of his/her heredity and the environment in which he/she was exposed to. Research findings suggest that heredity is largely responsible for basic traits such as the emotional tone, whereas, values, beliefs, and expectations are a result of experiences and socialization that a person had in his/her childhood.
It is interesting to note that the exchanges that a person has with the social environment as a child can cause some hereditary factors to contribute to his/her personality. For example, a person may not be a good singer, because he has not inherited a good voice. As a child, if he is repeatedly told that he is a bad singer, he is likely to shy away from any form of cultural activity. Even after becoming an adult, he will have this feeling inside, which would inhibit him from doing a lot of things that he loves doing, simply because of fear of rejection. All these shape the way he perceives himself too. Likewise, nasty remarks about a person's skin colour can also have similar effect.
One major environmental factor which influences personality is the way children are brought up different societies. In the US, children are brought up to be strong and independent. Parents treat children almost as equals. They have a right to voice their opinions. They are encouraged to do part time jobs and make money. All this is done to make them responsible individuals. However, in India, children are brought up in a more protected environment. Parents take care of all their children's needs till they attain adulthood. They are made to feel responsible only after they become adults.
In spite of these differences, there are some similarities too. In all societies, boys and girls are socialized in different ways. Boys are given more freedom than girls. Boys have the freedom to experiment and do physically demanding tasks, whereas girls are taught to do domestic work and prepared for child rearing.
Unique situations or events can also contribute to shaping the personality. Having an abusive parent, encountering a major accident, or witnessing a murder, etc can leave scars that won't wear off easily. It can make people fearful and less trusting.
