BRINGING UP CHILDREN
1. Basic principles:
to bring up (raise) children
to avoid pitfalls - , ; , , , ; ,
the formative years - ,
to progress (regress) in ones development - , , (; )
stunted development - , , ,
physical & mental development
to encourage a child - ; , ( -. - in), , , ;
to let children grow naturally -
to treat children like
to develop more quickly than previous generations
to gain independence from parents
to grow up
to be mature - , , ,
an effective approach
a peaceful & relaxed manner - , ; , ; ; ; ; ;
2. Basic qualities:
love
security - ; , ( -.), , , , ,
care
affection
respect
patience
reassurance - (); ; ; ; ; ;
happy home backgrounds /
responsible adults
not to feel neglected - ; , , ; , , , ; , ; ,
to be sensitive to ones feelings , , , , , ;
to be too wise to argue
to speak firmly - , , , ,
to be consistent - , , , ,
to be fair - , , ; , ; ,
to have no favourites
to show much patience (plenty of love)
3. Handling children: -, ; ,
to have full faith in
to keep anger under control
capacity to restrain anger - ; ;
to cause enormous damage
not to force ones will on a child -
to avoid labeling children (stupid, silly, foolish) - , ,
to listen to children with understanding & sympathy
to win smb. over - ; ; , (-., );
to avoid statements (comments) which can create arguments & tension
to shake smb.s confidence -
to offend smb.s self-respect
to prevent crisis
4. Atmosphere:
friendly
not authoritarian ,
dignified - , , , , ; ,
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uncomfortable , ; ; ;
embarrassing , , ;
an atmosphere of calm & quiet
to let steam off , ,
to put fat in the fire
to lose ones temper
not to create tension(s)
to be said in the heat of the moment , ,
5. Praise:
direct praise of personality
realistic (idealized) picture of smb.s personality
to exaggerate praise out of all proportion ; ,
to give a realistic picture of a childs accomplishments
to concentrate on a childs strength & not his weakness
to keep away from general remarks about anyones personality
6. Punishment:
to scream & yell at
not to hit children
to be bound to lose - ,
spanking - , , ;
to cause mental illness (psychological damage) /
to beat the daylights out of smb. - -. , , ,
to shake the life out of smb. -
to be ashamed of oneself
the best way to criticize
to say nothing
a direct reprimand - ; ; ; ; ;
to answer back
a beating - ; ; ; ; (); ; ; ;
to lock children up
not to speak with a child deliberately
to ignore a child
an undesirable form of punishment
sarcasm
to work out all sorts of schemes for revenge
to tell smb. off (to give smb. a telling off) , , ; , ;
7. Discipline. Behaviour. Manner:
to discipline smb. - ; , ,
a way of teaching politeness
to be punctual
to interrupt a conversation
to get quarrelsome - ; ; ; ; ; ; ;
the art of living together
to lead to frayed nerves for days on end - ; (- ); (- );
to develop a conscience in smb. ,
not a word of blame ; ;
not to impose anything on children
to encourage inner development
to give children a choice
to heighten smb.s self-confidence
a beneficial & corrective influence on smb. - , , ; ;
to leave a decision to the child
to teach smb. manners - ,
8. Childrens reaction:
to live up to smb.s expectation - , -
to do smth. on pupose
to have admonitions & warnings - , , , , , , ;
to be encouraged to ask questions
to be curious & inquisitive - ; , , (about), ()
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to learn by imitation
to feel part of the family
to hate questions which try to trap - , , ,
to be pushed into making up lies - , ( -.); , ;
to choose between telling a lie or giving embarrassing answers
to appreciate smth
to become full of resentment - , ; (about; against; at, towards)
to become a nuisance - ; , ; , , , ,
resentful - ; (about, at, of),
spiritless - , ;
delinquent - , , ;
